WITH CLENCHED FIST – FISTING

Fisting: A Practice Across All Forms of Sexual Relationships

Fisting occurs in all types of sexual relationships, but it is particularly common in BDSM relationships, where submission and control are key elements.


Vaginal or Anal Fisting

Fisting involves inserting an entire hand into the vagina or rectum of a woman, or into the rectum of a man. Some women even engage in double fisting, where one hand is inserted into the vagina while the other enters the rectum. Once the hand is fully inside, it forms a fist.


SENSATIONS – ACCEPTANCE

Self-Control & Trust

Fisting is not about pain but rather intense new sensations and pleasure. It is an act rooted in self-control, trust, and mutual exploration between partners. It represents the ultimate act of taking possession of someone’s body versus allowing one’s body to be possessed. In this way, it shares similarities with penetration using a penis, sex toys, or other objects.

Given the nature of this act, fisting can evoke physical feelings of dominance, control, and possession, while at the same time triggering emotional sensations of surrender and submission.

It is a myth that a woman must be “worn out” or “overused” to be able to engage in vaginal fisting. In reality, both young and mature women, whether they have given birth or not, can engage in this practice.

Many assume the vagina is always highly elastic—after all, it can stretch to deliver a baby. However, this is not entirely true. During childbirth, the body releases high levels of hormones that allow for extreme flexibility. Yet, a vagina can accommodate objects much thicker than even the largest penis, while still being able to clench tightly around a single finger.

The skin of the labia and the internal vaginal walls are highly sensitive and prone to tearing, which is why anal fisting is considered significantly riskier than vaginal fisting.


PREPARATION & COMMUNICATION

Consult a Doctor if Necessary

Several basic precautions should be taken to ensure pleasure, safety, and comfort.

  • The person being fisted must be completely relaxed and willing to surrender to the experience.
  • A strong foundation of trust between the fister and the recipient is crucial.
  • As a fister, understanding basic anatomy is essential. What works for one person may not work for another.
  • Always ask in advance about any medical history or previous surgeries involving the vagina, anus, or rectum. Discuss any potential risks together.
  • If in doubt, consult a doctor.

Pain is the body’s warning signal that something may be wrong, and since the vagina and rectum are delicate organs that are not visible, extreme caution is necessary.

To avoid injuries, the fister must always remain in control of the situation. In case of panic, the recipient should not be able to move too violently, as sudden movements could lead to self-injury.

Shaving & Hygiene

  • It is recommended to shave or trim pubic and anal hair. Long hairs can be pulled inside, causing pain and making relaxation difficult.
  • Only proceed with full consent from the recipient.
  • Stop means stop! If the recipient signals discomfort, immediately halt the session.
  • Hand size matters. Not every vagina or rectum can accommodate a large hand.

A massage can be a great way to help the recipient relax before fisting begins. Additionally, right after an orgasm, the muscles are often more relaxed, making penetration easier.

Communication is key! Keep talking and paying close attention to your partner’s facial expressions and body language. If something seems wrong—ask! Fisting is not the time to create fear or anxiety. Rushing or carelessness can lead to serious injuries and damage the trust built between partners.


ENVIRONMENT & SAFETY

  • Ensure that nothing and no one can interrupt you.
  • Once your hand is inside, you cannot quickly pull out if, for example, someone enters the room or if a candle tips over and starts a fire.
  • Wearing latex or surgical gloves is strongly recommended to prevent internal injuries or infections.
  • Avoid rings, jewelry, or rough surfaces on your hands.
  • If fisting without gloves, make sure your hands are thoroughly washed and nails are short and smooth.

GRADUAL ENTRY

Don’t Forget Your Wrists

  • Use a generous amount of lubricant (either water-based or oil-based) on both your hands and the vagina or anus.
  • Avoid lubricants with added fragrances or dyes, as these may cause allergic reactions.
  • Natural oils like soy or jojoba oil provide the best glide and are gentle on the skin.

Take your time to gradually stretch the vaginal or anal muscles:

  1. Start with one finger, then slowly add more.
  2. Work up to four fingers, then introduce the thumb.
  3. Just beyond the thumb, your hand reaches its widest point—this is the most challenging part.
  4. Once all fingers are inside, you can begin to form a fist.
  5. The vagina will naturally tighten around the wrist once the hand is fully inserted.

If your partner hesitates, offer words of encouragement, but never force anything. If reassurance doesn’t help—stop immediately.

Keeping lubricant nearby is crucial—apply more at the slightest sign of dryness.


DURING ORGASM

  • If the recipient experiences vaginal orgasm while your hand is inside, do not resist or push against the contractions.
  • If the recipient cannot climax, do not expect miracles.
  • Clitoral stimulation may help but is not guaranteed.
  • If the recipient is prone to squirting, apply extra oil-based lubricant, as squirt fluid removes natural lubrication.

PANIC & MUSCLE CONTRACTION

You’ll Be Surprised by the Strength of Those Muscles

If the recipient panics, keep your hand still and soothe them with words and gentle touch. Wait until they fully relax before attempting to continue.

If the vagina or anus tightens involuntarily, removing the hand forcefully can cause serious injury.

  • Never panic. As the fister, you must remain calm and in control.
  • If trapped inside, do not call for help—this will only cause more stress.
  • Instead, soothe your partner by caressing their body, helping them regain relaxation.
  • Keep your hand in place and attempt to gently rotate or move it up and down before slowly pulling it out.

Always withdraw your hand slowly using a twisting motion to avoid injuries.


AFTERCARE & EMOTIONAL CONNECTION

A Profoundly Intimate Act

Fisting requires intense focus and effort from both the fister and the recipient.

  • After the session, allow the recipient to rest and provide water, snacks, or something salty/sweet.
  • Show appreciation—if the experience was pleasurable, thank each other.
  • Some recipients experience intense euphoria after fisting, and fisters can feel a deep sense of connection as well.
  • Fisting is an act of extreme trust, symbolizing a deep and tangible exchange of control and surrender.

Final Thought:
Fisting is not about pain—it’s about pleasure, exploration, and deep intimacy. Treat it with care, respect, and full consent.

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