You can Kiss my Ass…

The Official Term is Anilingus or Analingus, But It’s Commonly Known as Rimming

The official term is anilingus or analingus, but it is more commonly known as rimming, tossing the salad, baffing, star licking, or simply butt licking. Oral sex is a standard part of most people’s sexual repertoire. In fact, it’s considered completely normal. However, rimming remains unexplored territory for many. Yet, this terrain is well worth exploring.

What is Rimming?

Rimming involves stimulating the anus with the mouth. This can be done by licking, inserting the tongue into the anus, or simply kissing the area. Any oral-anal contact falls under this category. Due to the high concentration of nerve endings, the anus is extremely sensitive. Touching or stimulating it can be highly arousing.

Like all forms of sex, a significant part of the experience happens in the mind. For some, the anus is still surrounded by a certain taboo. Some people consider it dirty, strange, or even intimidating. Edwin (43): “For me, the anus is strictly one-way traffic. I don’t find it appealing at all, in fact, I think it’s gay.”

Erotic and Slightly Perverse

However, rimming—or any form of anal sex—has nothing to do with sexual orientation. Studies show that while 90% of people between 25 and 45 have had oral sex, about 36% of women and 44% of men have experienced some form of anal sex.

Rimming occurs in both heterosexual and gay relationships. It is also frequently part of relationships where dominance and submission play a role, often with a slightly different meaning.

Betty (34): “I love it when a man licks my ass, especially when I’m really turned on. It makes me crave anal sex, and it helps me relax in that area, making penetration easier. Recently, I rimmed my boyfriend for the first time. I wouldn’t do that for just anyone—it’s a special act of intimacy and trust for me. I found it erotic and a bit perverse. He responded enthusiastically, so I’ll definitely do it more often.”


Getting Started: Hygiene and Safety

Before trying rimming, it’s essential to take certain precautions. Here are some useful tips:

  • Cleanliness is key. Take a shower or bath beforehand—together, if you like. While spontaneous moments can be fun, ensuring hygiene makes the experience more comfortable for both partners. Washing with water and soap is sufficient, but for a deeper cleanse, an anal enema can be used.
  • HIV risk is minimal unless blood is present. However, STDs, hepatitis A or B, and other infections can be transmitted due to bacteria in the digestive system. For extra safety, a dental dam or a cut-open condom without lubricant can be used.
  • Avoid cross-contamination. If a man rims a woman, do not switch directly to vaginal stimulation. Just as one wouldn’t switch from anal to vaginal penetration, the same rule applies to oral play. The anus contains more bacteria, and women are especially prone to urinary tract infections.
  • Grooming matters. Let’s face it—a hairy butt is not the most appealing thing to stick your tongue into. This applies to both men and women. Stray hairs around the anal area can be off-putting, so trimming or shaving is advisable.

Techniques for the Giver

  • Don’t rush in. Avoid surprising your partner by shoving your tongue in right away. Instead, tease and gauge their reaction.
  • Stimulate the surrounding area. Work on the perineum (the space between the genitals and anus) with your lips and tongue. Blow warm breath over the area to increase anticipation.
  • Experiment with tongue movements. Try long, slow licks—like licking an ice cream cone. Use different tongue and lip motions, and pay attention to your partner’s reactions.
  • Make your tongue firm. Use it to penetrate gently.
  • Use your hands. Spread the buttocks apart for better access. Since most people don’t climax from rimming alone, combine it with manual stimulation or encourage your partner to do so.
  • Incorporate toys or fingers. For men, inserting a wet finger while rimming can stimulate the prostate. At the same time, you can lick his balls and encourage him to touch himself.
    • For women, a vibrator or clitoral stimulator can enhance the experience while being rimmed.

Best Positions for the Receiver

  • Lying on your back with a pillow under your hips to lift the buttocks.
  • Doggy style (on hands and knees) while spreading the cheeks.
  • 69 position.
  • Sitting on your partner’s face.
  • Lying on your stomach with a pillow under the hips.
  • Holding ankles over the shoulders while lying on your back.
  • Standing against a wall or bending over a desk with legs spread apart.

Rimming and Dominance

A Divine Act to Perform

As previously mentioned, rimming plays a role in dominant-submissive dynamics. In these scenarios, it can serve as a means of control or humiliation.

For example, a dominant woman may demand that her submissive lick her ass as an act of submission.

Eric (40, submissive): “My Mistress often makes me lick Her ass while She sits on my face. She does it in a way that I have nowhere to move. For me, it’s a mix of humiliation and devotion. I get turned on when She exerts Her power like that. It makes me feel small, and that excites me.

Especially when She denies me access to Her pussy and only lets me rim Her ass. I feel humbled and slightly degraded. However, if She forced me to rim another man’s ass, I would feel completely humiliated. And yes—humiliation turns me on.

Since I see a woman as a Goddess, and especially my Mistress, I don’t believe women should rim men. That just doesn’t feel right. But ass-worship for my Mistress? That is divine to me.”


🔹 For privacy reasons, the names of those quoted have been changed.

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